We once pointed out how important it is to develop healthy relationships and avoid relationships with toxic or destructive components. People who have healthy relationships feel happier and happier in their lives. You are less likely to have physical and mental health problems.
But what do we mean by healthy relationships? What are these relationships and how are they structured? Today we will try to answer these questions.
Build Romantic Relationships:
Romantic relationships form a series of pillars. Communication is the first and foremost of them. When we engage in sincere, constructive, and non-defensive communication with our partner, we will be able to talk about the issues that may arise and try to resolve them to prevent anyone from feeling attacked or hurt to overcome a crisis in the best case possible way we face. Other keys are the following:
Speak Bluntly About The Problems:
If something bothers or disgusts us, it is best to convey it clearly and concretely to our partner without having to attack, just by letting him know that it bothers us. Many couples do not talk to each other about what bothers them, hide it, or try to inform them with hints or defensive behavior. In other cases, they are just waiting for the other to become aware of themselves, and when they realize that they are not getting it, they become even more angry.
If we accept these attitudes and hope that our partner somehow knows what bothers us, we manage to nourish the discomfort even more, since none of us can guess at each other’s needs at any moment, no matter how much we learn from them, If he knows us, he should know.
Commitment And Agreement:
In any relationship, of any kind, we will deal with discrepancies or different views of things as well as with our own needs. It is crucial that, in the face of conflict, we try to find reasonable agreements in which each of the parties contributes to their share of responsibility for the problem.
To overcome disagreements and crises, we need to work as a team with our partner. Remember that relationships are a matter of two and no party can take responsibility for it.
As mentioned earlier, each member has their own views and needs for a couple, and both should be respected by the others.
However much trust and cooperation there is in the couple, there are two different people with different circumstances and desires. It must be clear that we do not have to share all these desires and ideas, but we must respect the individuality of the other, without attacking or questioning him, or trying to resemble him in our own way.
Over time, our partner becomes one of the most important figures in our lives and every time we share more time and intimacy with her.
To give consolation, encouragement and encouragement in a couple is essential for building a relationship of trust. The two members of the couple should know that they have the unconditional support in the other, with whom they are at the times of the celebration, but also when they touch the ground.
To do so, the two parties must share their feelings and emotions, open their hearts and forget the resistance as vulnerable. If there are resistances or shields, we can not access or allow the other person, and this prevents us from establishing a reasonable and real level of intimacy with the conflicts involved.
If you mark a number of boundaries in the worst relationship, even if it seems contradictory, we feel more robust and secure. We refer to commonly set limits, limits that both parties agree on and that are not created by mistrust or “catching” the other.
The limits are based on what everyone thinks makes you feel good, like and feel good. We must remember that these are limits, not prohibitions, and that they are determined by mutual consent or by mutual agreement. If we do not find that consensus, we have to think about what each of the relationships expects and whether the relationship with that person allows us to be comfortable and safe. What do we need?
What Are Not Healthy Relationships?
We can understand this point on the basis of what we have said in the previous one. Unhealthy, toxic or dependent relationships are based on power and control over each other. It is possible that at the beginning of the relationship, the characteristics of unhealthy couples go unnoticed, but gradually they appear more frequent and powerful.